Monday, May 10, 2010

Random Rants!

I've been jogging almost everyday for the past one month, well over a month, remember the 3Ps, i sorta continued after the first 30 days and just intensified the pace. I cut short my length and now jog all the way for about 25 minutes and then get back. I must say it's not been the easiest thing to do, getting out of bed at 6:15 am but it's been good. I love the adrenaline rush i get from running, i love that i can talk to God as i get out that early and it has sort of helped give my day more order. I now have to make sure i shower early and start my day on time. It's had a good number of benefits. I haven't lost that much weight but i think i'll get there if i don't give up. I'm going to be adding some more ingredients to the mix that will help me lose weight...so help me God.

Even hubby has commended me on how disciplined and focused I've been. He thinks I'm really trying hard, so imagine how upset I am when I met some spoilt brat yesterday. I haven't seen this person in about 6 years and infact I didnt recognise her. She called my name while hubby was introducing me to someone important and I thought the fact that I didn't have my glasses on had something to do with me not recognising this person. I walked up to her and she introduced herself. So I was like oh yeah, sorry it's been long, I just didnt recognise you. She said something i thought wasn't funny then went on to ask me why i had added so much weight. I smiled politely, then she went on to let me know how after having two kids, she's slimmer than me (not having any kids yet). She was like 'this is not good, not good', go and lose some weight, infact you should start jogging.

I just stood there tongue tied, typical reaction when i'm upset. I wish i could be more outspoken in instances like that. I didnt bother asking for her number or anything, I don't want to remain in contact with such people. I walked back to hubby and told him what had transpired. He was very angry and said i shouldn't have let her get off with it. I wish i didn't and a part of me just wants to email to call her to order.

In the first place, Mrs 'i'm slimmer than you', who is in a competition with you? Is it my fault you have such a low self esteem that you must make yourself feel good by comparing yourself to others? You should watch it because someday you will meet your match or someone more brutal than yourself, and you could just end up with a slap. Infact, I might be glad to be the one doing the slapping! You don't know anything about me, you don't know me, other than seeing me once 6 years ago, so how dare you run your mouth like that! Just warning you, you prolly won't be reading but i'm telling you...NEVER ever stick your nose in my business again! I love myself the way i am, you don't know the effort i'm making...and just don't stick your nose in my business.

I don't know why people think it's a prerequisite to make comments on someone else's weight if they haven't seen the person in a while. Stop it! It doesn't make for good conversation. Learn some tact if you haven't got it. Unless someone asks your opinion about their weight, no matter what it is, please shove it! Or well, unless you're very close to them and it's not too personal to talk about! The next time i get unsolicited advice or comment about my weight, i would be really nasty, i think! ( i wish i could do that!. You'd think i am that big sef...nonsense.

My hair is pretty damaged, i just found out. I'm trying to decide what to do about that. I just noticed one whole side is pretty much shorter than the rest. I think i might have to let it grow naturally for some time and trim it all to the same length. It's so painful though. I remember some years back, something like that happened to me but it was even worse, oen side went bald. I really need to find me a good salon/hairdresser in this city of Abuja.

Ok, rant over, i got me some work to do!

Have a nice week everyone! :-)

15 comments:

BBB said...

ARRRRGGGHHHH!!!!

I feel like tearing my hair out, what nonsense, i hate it when people do that
mind your business about my effing weight
am working hard at it
and unless you want to complement how good i look
shut the fuck up
people just cross their boundaries nowadays
and with my present mood these days
i might have given that ur friend a total washdown if it was me
stupid b*tch
mscheew
my sis dont mind them jare
i am jogging 2 times a week also, i go five laps round d national stadium, do aerobics and some crazy tummy exercises
then i do normal exercises in my bedroom everyother day ( 50-100 situps and 500 skips)
i see changes at times and at times am stagnant
but am trying
and i feel good about myself
thats whats important.
funny enough my hair seems to be in bad shape too

sorry for d long comment
ur friend pissed me off

Dee! said...

Abeg, wetin concern am! If she wants to see fat, let her look somewhere else!!! People like that Mrs. "I'M SLIMMER THAN YOU" rub me off the wrong way! I bet she must think she is a super model!

I agree with your hubby, you should have given her some witty remarks in reply. Something like "I expect you should HAVE added some few pounds here and there like most 2 star generals I know. I think you should act fast before people start talking o" LOL!

You know what? Just ignore her and keep up the 3Ps jare!

Jaycee said...

comments, comments, comments...people and their rude remarks. I think not replying is actually better...repaying their wicked words with kind ones even better (more in theory though)...that way you will heap burning coals on their head.

I couldn't exercise every-day, but I'm not disappointed...after I balance my life out a little bit more, I will be more motivated to make it a lifestyle. THUMBS UP girlie!!!

Nice Anon said...

I have focused more on being healthy seeing as I will never be a size 5. So it takes dedication to stay working out . Keep it up.

Blowing Blessings Your Way said...

WOW!!! Who asked her???? How rude and uncalled for! I'm happy you didn't answer her jare...she's not worth your breathe...hissss

Sorry...bout ur hair :-/...going natural isn't too bad, I've been natural for some time now

aloted said...

ore, lets organise some boys to beat her skinny behind. roflol

pele jaree.

Artsville said...

You've been jogging everyday, that's huge. Well done. Jaycee says don't reply, I say do. I make sure I give such people some good washing, that way I save another person from falling victim of their cruel remarks.

bob-ij said...

ARGHHH!!! I'm annoyed on your behalf! I hate when people open their mouths and let things flow without thinking. I'd have reacted the same as you though. I tend to keep quiet cuz anything I say will be so hurtful that I'd better just be silent. Good job at waking up that early. I can't seem to get into a good regime.

I've found that people who say negative things to others do it to make themselves feel better and mask their insecurities! So I wouldn't sweat it!!

Take care!

~x~

Myne Whitman said...

I know for a fact you're not even big at all so where do her comments come in? Some people and over sabi, me I will give it to her back however nicely. Abeg love yourself and forget those that love to pull down others.

downtheaisle said...

i can imagine how you feel...I have had such remarks too and I can remember that I have cried afterwards after 2 or 3 of such occasions.One I remember vividly was from an old neighbour.
some people can be very rude sha!!!!that's no nice way to compliment someone after a long time, I can't understand why peeps can't jst shut up if they dnt have any compliments to pay!!!

like aloted said...***shd we arrange for boys to beat her up***lol!
jst ignore...we can do without such people in our lives!

yankeenaijababe said...

She needs to mind her business, if she got nothing to do, let her go and feed her children, jobless women.

Hugs!

~Sirius~ said...

What!!!!!
What's her stress!
She's just darn rude!

Haven't people learnt how to speak to people they don't have a proper relationship with?

Jeeze!

Just take it easy.

Funms-the rebirth said...

u said it all, she has low self esteem and thinks putting people down will make her seem better. glad u actually walked away. no point dignifying her comment with a response
good job sis....keep it up

NoLimit said...

I'm with Aloted...let me knw when you're ready...that is just uncalled for and I'm so angry with you that you didn't give her a "good response"...the cheek of her!:(

HYAW said...

I miss you, first of all. secondly, those people, they never stop, even if you lose all the weight in the world, they dont even look at you before they tell you how fat you are. it makes them feel good about themselves, and its so pathetic. so i have learnt how to pity them rather than get angry with them. but at times when i get angry, if someone says something like 'you as fat as a cow', i say 'you look like a lizard'