Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Tell Them...

We all have people who are dear to our hearts, people we care about and who care about us in return but sometimes we never really know if these people care or they probably never know that we do..


We all go about our ways and we act normal and then when something happens to someone you love, you start thinking about them and taking stock and wondering about your relationship with them over the years. You even assess or wonder if there's something you could have done differently.


I'm against the culture that celebrates someone only after they are long gone and they don't need your praise. By long gone, it could be dead or far away from you. True the saying goes absence makes the mind grow fonder but sometimes i wonder if it really does, does it not just widen the gap? I'm not sure.


I'm not sure why a lot of people have parties when their older people die with the kind of amounts that those people might never have heard about in all their lifetime. When they're alive or around us, it doesn't mean much but once they leave, we start to eulogise and say how much of good people they were. Tell me, of what use is it to them then?


For a lot of us, it's an assumption that our loved ones know we care about them. We justify our actions, if i didn't care for her, would i have done this or that? How do i know if you don't tell me? The best way i can know is if you tell me.

There are so many people in our everyday lives that we take for granted and just never show appreciation to. How about that househelp that makes sure your house is tidy although she gets on your nerves. The issue is right now, all you see is the things she hasn't done, you forget so many the good. How about your gardener, the one who makes sure your house is not overgrown with weed, yes you pay him but a word of appreciation or a pat on the back once in a while never hurt anybody. How about your co worker who makes sure your project is off the ground because you need help. Oh well, you could have done it alone, but he still helped didn't he? What about your husband/wife? Oh gosh, he's just so annoying, do they not have any good sides? If they died today, would you or not sing their praise? If they suddenly walked out on you, will there be a gap or not?

It doesn't have to be an eulogy. It does not have to be poetic. Even a thank you at the right time will go a long way in saying how much we appreciate the other person.

How about telling people that we appreciate them right when they are there or very present in our lives and not when we lose them.

I'm going to practise my own preaching and say thank you blogville, i appreciate you, you're the reason Writefreak is here! And for those bloggers who have moved from bloggers to friends...oh, you guys are the best! You make it worthwhile being here! Love you all :-)

Have a blessed rest of the week!

29 comments:

jhazmyn said...

First...YAY!! tnxs for the tip..wink wink. And u are totally appreciated too dear...xoxo

Dee! said...

Yeah! I also believe we should show and tell people how much we love and care for them while they are alive. I really frown at it when I see people spend so much on a burial ceremony of an individual who had been neglected by their family and friends during their live time. I mean, what is the point exactly?!

Thank you for this post. How are you and yours?

akaBagucci said...

Very useful reminder... Need to get on the phone ASAP...

doll said...

word....it has happened to me before...when i lost a friend..i replayed all our times together in my head and wept an wished i had done more to show him how much i cherish him

Rita said...

Let's not go there (guilty...guilty)...

How true your words are and I really agree with you. But there is someone I am calling that is not picking oh!

Thank you for this reminder.

Gee said...

lol @ Rita...me too I may just be guilty(keyword=may)
lol...
but nice and true read!

Jaycee said...

Thank you so much for this post...I am on my way to say "thank you" to someone right now...

Olufunke said...

Thanks for the reminder.

and dear, you are appreciated.

Cheers!

Uzezi said...

tell them o. I clear my throat. Tell us. It is very easy to see faults. These days Im in the habit of praying that the Holy Spirit should help me see the good in people and not the evil, and since I started praying that way, the rate at which I believe that someone is planning this and that against me has reduced.

and as of saying thank you, and aprreciating people in our lives, very important.

Nefertiti said...

So true, sis. We don't need to wait till people are gone to express how we feel. :)

I love u too, and I appreciate you for listening to me when I go off tangent. lol.

MilesPerHour said...

Great post and interesting that I had already told 2 people today just how much I appreciated them. And that was before I read your post.

LusciousRon said...

Awww. We love you too! At least I do!. This was good. Thanks.

leggy said...

recently..someone told me..you are an amazing friend...it made my day.

Lyrics said...

Sometimes i get too busy to just tell them...thanks for the reminder

Myne Whitman said...

Thank you too and I'll always try and remember.

TRYBES said...

Very thoughtful and reflective piece..Thanks for prickin my conscience one more time..

HYAW said...

If the dead could see,the poor man would see more food on his burial,than he saw in a whole lifetime. I often think of appreciating pple in my life but im not good at it. I'd start to learn

TayneMent said...

true words...

Sassy Trends said...

Well said..

Enkay said...

There was a burial I attended not too long ago and I saw that the family was trying real hard to 'upgrade' the man's house in time for the funeral.

I wondered to myself what use that was now that the man is gone. Could they not have done that while he was alive to appreciate and enjoy it?

Thanks for the reminder dearie.

Sh'o wa?

Temite said...

Well...what if we pay those people who work for us? I mean, isn't that a way of saying thank you? Just wondering.

justdoyin said...

thanks for this very useful and true reminder...I've got some work to do in that department...

aloted said...

u r welcome :)

thanks for this post

Funms-the rebirth said...

i appreciate u so much big sis....for ur unending support and concern.....love u

Tigeress said...

see dis yeye funms- a se she has plenty sisters. lol

Writefreak- thanks for the reminder. :)

Geebee said...

So true. What's the point in celebrating people when they're gone when we refuse to celebrate them when they were alive. Showing people how much you care about them while they're with you is probably the world's most noble deed. I guess some of us need to ask God for forgiveness for refusing to appreciate those dear to us who are now gone while they were still with us.

Geebee said...

So true. What's the point in celebrating people when they're gone when we refuse to celebrate them when they were alive. Showing people how much you care about them while they're with you is probably the world's most noble deed. I guess some of us need to ask God for forgiveness for refusing to appreciate those dear to us who are now gone while they were still with us.

Geebee said...

So true. What's the point in celebrating people when they're gone when we refuse to celebrate them when they were alive. Showing people how much you care about them while they're with you is probably the world's most noble deed. I guess some of us need to ask God for forgiveness for refusing to appreciate those dear to us who are now gone while they were still with us.

Controversy said...

Mehn we thank God for u o.
I've been robbed when I was back in Nigeria, they entered my house I even got slapped twice. But it's good that you and hubby exercise wise judgement