Wednesday, March 03, 2010

Get In The Deep End!

I learnt to swim some years back and the instructor did a great job of teaching me, actually us. My husband and i (then fiance) with my sister all learnt together. He was a task master and he would make us go to the deep end with no warning. The pool was fairly large and the first time he made me do it, it felt like a feat i could not achieve. He went with me, and i did it! It was amazing.

Coach I was like a slave driver and if you managed to drink water, he would call you 'Shakira' (something about shacking water..lol. Left to me, I would know all the styles he could teach, back strokes, breast strokes, free style etc. I stayed with breast strokes, that was the one he first taught me. I tried back strokes too and i was ok with it but i just liked breast strokes better.

A few years later, i had not gone swimming in a while, there were so many reasons not to. There was no good pool around, I would have to travel a far distance from my house in Surulere when i lived in Lagos etc. Swimming took a back seat and I only got to fool around in the water whenever I got the opportunity to.

A few years later (NOW), I live in a city where traffic is not a problem, I have the membership of a hotel gym and I can use the pool anytime i want. I'm a registered member, I don't need to pay a dime extra. I go a bit more frequently now.

EVerytime i'm at the pool, i stay in the shallow end and just keep swimming the breath back and forth. I would tell myself sometimes it's the same skill i use for the breadth that i need for the length but would still not venture out.

The last time at the pool, hubby suggested starting from the deep end so if i got stuck, i could stop just before the shallow end. I didn't think i wasn't going because i though i couldn't make it to the end. I can swim well, it's just a four letter word FEAR. I've had episodes in the past when by myself I would stop in the middle of the water and shout 'I'm drowning'. I wasn't really drowning, I just decided in my mind I couldn't move on.

So today, I decided why not take the Mr's advice and start from the deep end. I stayed there for a while hanging on the wall for support, i tried to acclimatise, i even went down and let my feet touch the ground so i could spring up. I lost control a bit at that point and then i did what my instructor taught me, i sprang up and voila, my head came up. I waited a few minutes and then

I decided to glide forward. I pushed myself forward and instructed myself to swim. One stroke after the other, with my legs kicking, i made it to the shallow end with no incident. I made sure i stayed close to the wall though(chicken me).

Then when i swam back to the deep end, i asked hubby why i never ventured out by myself, he said FEAR. He explained how i had put a limitation on myself, told myself i could not do it and no matter what anyone said, until i told myself i could, nobody could. I went back and forth and made sure i did seven laps. I did it! I could with no help
from anyone.

Thinking about it, God taught me a lesson. He has told me I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. His word is true but when i say the word can't, my brain shuts down, i see no way around it and no matter what, I just can't.

It's like that with every area of our lives. I dared myself, I pushed myself forward, although my hubby thought i could, his words could not have done it for me if i didn't dare to try.

In what area have you said to yourself I can't, although you know deep down that if only you try, you can? Like my husband said to me, I dare you to take off the limitation on your mind and swim to the deep end.

You can!

22 comments:

Pink Satin said...

first!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!lol @ shakira

NoLimit said...

This night has just been a night of great words from God...I dare ME to take off the limitation on My mind and swim to the deep end.
And i will...a stroke at a time.

Jaycee said...

My dad always warned us not to go to the deep end. But yes, we need to dare ourselves...there's nothing we can't do. I believe it.

MPB said...

Help!!!! I have been blocked from your other blog "in my dreams it was simpler" and I am so addicted to the blog and faithfully comment. What do I do?

Rita said...

Hmmm, this is profound....
Thank you WF...

Enkay said...

Fear I think is easily the worst singular reason why many people never go beyond their comfort zone.

I was that way when I started driving. It was easier to just drive around the neighbourhood but I never ventured to go beyond until Mr forced my hand!

We bickered at each other during the entire ride but that was all the boost my confidence required!

blogoratti said...

yes we can!

Dee! said...

You are very right. We have to move away from our limitations and banish fear forever!

We can do all things through Christ...

Yes we can!

QMoney said...

yes we can!!!!!!!!!
nice one...luv

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Good Naija Girl said...

Fear really is a horrible thing...I know it has played a huge role in so many of the things I have not attempted.

Thanks for the inspiration and congrats on spending time in the deep end! xo

SHE said...

Great! Really inspiring.

downtheaisle said...

hunnn...!!!! (insert nodding)
very true!

Myne Whitman said...

Yes we can!

I started out with fear when I was learning to drive but now with my license in my purse, the next objective is swimming.

Yes I can!

Fragilelooks said...

LMAO @ SHAKIRA.

cosmopolitandiva said...

Shakira ke? LOL
Yea most things are like that, once you get over the fear and do it you can't stop asking yourself WHY you were so afraid in the first place...taking the first step is the hardest

mystoriesmytestimonies said...

fear ....
i can do all things thru christ who strengthens me...
i will pass my BOARD exam this JUNE in Jesus name AMEN....
GOD IS GOOD....

mystoriesmytestimonies said...

please add me to ur blog
in my dreams ..it was simpler...
abeg..thanks

Tricia said...

I will try to swim in the deep end concerning the things i have feared to do

Olufunke said...

FEAR............
Those 4 letters!!!!
I am with you on this.
Like you said one has to face one's fear and dare to live!

I know things I have deprived myself of cos of fear. I am working on 'fear' in my life too.
Thanks
How are you doing?
Long time!

Anoda Phase said...

WF, did u write this with me in mind? seriously! even with respect to the swimming...I used to fly, and knowing how to swim was a prerequisite, so I did learn, and I do know how to swim (@ least I think I do)...but I never venture to the deep end, and when I do, I stay glued to the wall, ready to hold on to it should anything go wrong...lol

And for other areas of my life where I've been placing limits on myself, YES, I do believe I can swim to the deep end - with God's strength of cos...

Thanks WF...

Matthias said...

Hey, I notice you visited the hotel gym. Would you mind writing a review at http://www.HotelGymReview.com?

Thanks!