My Humourous? Letter of Thanks

Dear God,

I'm not going to ask how you are today because i know you're always fine. You're probably even laughing right now, the bible says you laugh in heaven. How're the angels? I know you always dispatch them to me. Maybe i should still ask though, i hope you're fine up there...if so doxology (lol)

Well I'm fine down here. You keep giving me a lot of blessings, a lot of which I don't even deserve. The purpose of my writing this letter to you is to tell you how grateful I am to you and to let you know the reasons that I'm grateful. Who knows? I might even get more blessings! (yes i'm greedy like that lord)

I'm very hardheaded, i know dear Lord but you take me as I am, you let me throw my tantrum, sometimes permit me to go my own way and then you wait for me to come back to you. Thank you for always giving this stubborn, hard headed child of yours a second chance and never giving up on me.

I was wondering God about my husband and my marriage and I'd like to know why you blessed me so much. I guess I can say it's grace. We have no problems here, and I'm grateful for that. Infact Lord, the hubby has been very wonderful to me (i know it's thanksgiving but can i just make a lil request that you let it continue this way...i know, i know i'm oliver twist! oh and can i also ask that i continue to be a good wife also? and one more thing Lord...ok, i know you know it already!..).

You know Lord, i was wondering about what makes my life so blessed and my friends are a great reason. You've given me very few great ones and i love it that way. I really am not sure i could cope with a lot of them. You know how i like to be all lovey dovey and connected with my friends. Well they're simply amazing and wonderful and i wanted to just say i love them and i'm glad you gave them to me.

Oh we've been enjoyin good health too and i just wanted to say i love how that has been. No one in my family is sick. Mr and i are in good health. All my friends are well and i don't take this for granted. You know how those ulcers were really bothering me, i'm glad that they're mostly gone. They're not as frequent as they used to be and i thank you because soon they won't even come back anymore...i'm sure you know how much of a pain they can be. The little buggers! (Do you even like that word i just used?)

I'm grateful how you keep bringing the right people my way, the ones who can help me, the ones i can help..the ones we can share stuff with each other..My sister, i'm thankful how you made her journey safe and despite her running around everywhere like a headless chicken, you continue to keep her.

I know i've been whining a lot lately and i know you just wonder why i do it. I know i shouldn't. And I just want to say I'm thankful i have people who look up to me and i can be a blessing to materially or otherwise. You have given me much and much is required of me..

You know sometimes Lord, i wonder why i go through some things and why i just won't let me scale the hurdle like a lot of people would so easily but i know you have given me strength and i'm thankful for that strength. I'm a strong woman, and i thank you for it. I'm thankful for those i've been comparing myself to also (and as an aside, i'm sorry), for all that you're doing in their lives.

You know i could write on and on and there'll be so much to say but i need to go and do that script i've been procrastinating (did i even spell that word right?) . But you know how grateful i am right? I really am grateful

Oh i should let you know about that chic in the hospital who took my blood yesterday. I'm thankful she didn't break the needle in my arm. Sometimes she seems to like her job, at other times she's so insensitive but that doctor that made me smile...thank you for him, you know how to bring me a smile even when i'm scared. So thank you Lord that she didn't break the needle in my arm again!

Let me drop my golden pen here so that i can go and do some work. But before i do that i will like to say you're the butter in my bread and the sugar in my tea. Infact you're the real ISH!

Yours Sincerely,

Becoming my mother....

When i was a kid, my mum would not let us especially me being the first child sleep till the living room and kitchen were sparkling clean. Behind her, we all called her a freak. Like really, couldn't it have waited till morning. No way, you couldn't reason with my mum on that.

If she woke up at 2am and the house was untidy, trust me, she was heading to my bed. Initially i used to argue and beg her to let it wait but i found out that never worked. I would spend several minutes begging her, then spend the rest tidying up, so i decided to do it in good grace always telling myself that one day i would have my own home and be able to make my own rules.

Trust me, i love my mum so much, she just had her idiosyncracies. A lot of our times spent together, which was most times with my siblings, we'd all tease her and tell her she needed to relax or else her grey hairs would increase. lol..well that never stopped mama writefreak.

If you were sleeping at 6a.m, my mum thought that was a huge offence, even on Saturdays. It took my dad's intervention for her to allow us sleep in a bit on Saturdays. And even at that, she'd walk all over the house, making comments about how we all were refusing to get up early in the morning and asking what we were still doing in bed. Considering i am a light sleeper, i used to just get up in annoyance and say 'ok mummy what do you want me to do'? My siblings would just hold the covers over their heads tighter.

Can you imagine that even after i got married, my mum still did this and my husband and i just teased her and said she should relax cos we weren't getting out of bed yet. Lol...she got the message and we all had a good laugh about it. It doesn't mean though that if i go tomorro to visit Mama and Papa Writefreak, she still wouldn't try her luck...lol. My mum is just an amazing woman, so strong and clean.

Fast forward 10 years after this, Writefreak has been married a while, has her own home that she dreamed of and can do anything she likes. Yeah anything she likes! First thing Writefreak will notice when she had a few siblings staying with her was anything that wasn't in place. Calssic Mama Writefreak attitude, infact, my mother would start asking why some things were not in place as she settled down once she entered the house. My siblings pointed out i was exactly like our mum and i said rubbish, you're just lazy...

Recently, i found myself tidying the sitting room at 3 am and i didn't think it was wrong, i only wanted to do it so things would be easier for me when i woke up the following day. Wait, isn't that reasonable? What if that's what my mother would have done.

A few days ago, night owl that i am, i was chatting with a few friends and working at about 2:30 am when i got very hungry. I decided to get a slice of bread from the fridge (yeah, yeah, i know better, it's not healthy to eat at such od dhours and bla bla..), i got to the fridge and i promptly ignored the bread. Yours truly noticed some dirt spots inside the fridge and just swung into action. I cleaned two layers and then it occured to me it was the early hours of the morning already. I got my bread deliberately and came to the living room but i just couldn't take my mind off it. I really wanted to clean the fridge at that time. I forced myself not to, it could wait till morning. It took a lot of will though. My mother would have done the same, maybe even done the cleaning at that time.

Help! Am i becoming my mother?

Enter His Gates....

Giving thanks keeps things in perspective. It makes you focus on what is going right and shift your attention(even if temporarily) from the negatives. It makes you acknowledge that things are not so bad.
When you graduate from thanksgiving to worship, it gives you a sense of reckless abandonment. You move your focus entirely from the natural to the supernatural and it's almost a case of 'i don't send, God's got it all now'.
Singing praises, giving thanks open doors to great things. Closed doors are open...

'But at midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the prisoners were listening to them. Suddenly there was a great earthquake, so that the foundations of the prison were shaken; and immediately all the doors were opened and everyone’s chains were loosed.'. Acts 16:25-26

This is my 10th thankful post and i am not giving up...I am thankful for the following:

1. I am thankful for the death and ressurection of Jesus. So many lessons to learn from it!

2. I am thankful for the Easter holidays, it's one of the best Mr and i have had in a long time....talk of just lounging. No details all you aprokos...lol!

3. I am thankful for my marriage, for a man that loves me and whom i love in return, for the ability to continue seeing the best in each other. I don't take this for granted

4. I'm thankful for a safe trip. Mr and I went to Lagos and came back safely

5. I'm thankful for my family. I saw all my siblings except one last week and I'm glad they're all doing ok.

6. I'm thankful for my nephew and niece who seem to be growing in leaps and bounds.

7. I'm thankful for my health. Sometimes my digestive system just seems to be on a break, it was yesterday but today I feel a lot better.

8. I'm thankful for good and godly friends and the ability to be able to stick together in good or bad times.

What are you thankful for?

ps: i'm seriously beginning to think i should be able to get paid for blogging. i'd rather blog than do my work...help people! but erm, i'm beginning to think if i got paid for it, won't i also start seeing it as a job, not so? i love blogging jo! lol

*Pls swing by soulsistas to read our latest post*

What's with the tagging sef?

So i got tagged by Temite and i thought i'd just ignore her and not do it but then...i can't say no to her...so here i am doing a tag on a Saturday morning...mschew.

Here are the rules

*Use the first letter of your name to answer each of the following questions.
*They have to be real...nothing made up! If the person before you had the same first initial, you must use different answers.
*You cannot use any word twice and you can't use your name for the boy/girl name question.
* Dont google ur answers.
*Make it as interesting and fun as you can.

1. What is your name: writefreak
2. A four Letter Word: Warm
3. A boy's Name: Wonuola
4. A girl's Name: Wunmi
5. An occupation: Writer; writers rule men!
6. A color: White
7. Something you'll wear: White PJs
9. A food: Wice (i can't think of any food that starts with W now jo and some people actually get away with pronouncing it like that)
10. Something found in the bathroom: Water
11. A place: Warri (maybe i should take a trip !mistook 12 noon for 12 midnight! lol
13. Something you'd shout: WHY ME! lol
14. A movie title: Wanted
15. Something you drink: Water
16. A musical group: West Life
17. An animal: Wild animal...hehehehe...which animal name starts with W sef? mscheew
18. A street name: erm...what if i create my own street name? Wale street...lol
19. A type of car: Wine Range Rover!
20. The title of a song: Worship Again

Got some very bad news yesterday. Our friends; a couple had a baby yesterday, a little girl and they lost her, i'm just trying to understand it but i've found out i can't. Please help me say a prayer for my friends..i can't imagine the grief they're going through right now. I won't question...whatever the case is, i know God loves them and He loves us all. It is well. *sighs*


Ps: It's my lovely friend Aloted's birthday today. She's such a wonderful person, y'all give her a shout. Babe you know there's nothing but love for you here and may this be the best year you ever lived!
Oh it's Enkay's birthday too...happy birthday babe. May it be your best year ever!

Have a great Easter everyone!

Only By Grace...

It is by His grace that we're not consumed. It is by His grace that we shut our eyes to sleep for the night and wake up and it's morning. You lift your hands, they're working perfectly...the eyes see, your legs work, your brain hasn't shut down. Your family is intact, you can think clearly...it is only by His grace. C'mon someone must be behind all that...it is God and He deserves some praise.

Atimes we don't think clearly, our problems seem to be so huge that we forget the goodness of God and His faithfulness to us. What i hear clearly in my spirit this morning is that even if you're going through stuff, things that you don't understand, you're going through them only because you can bear them, you're strong enough and at the end of it, you will come out tried and tested, purified! Can i get an Amen? I am speaking to myself and I'm speaking to you...whatever you're going through right now is not permanent..it will COME TO PASS....

Just look very well, think deeply, there is at least something you can be thankful for even in the eye of the storm!

So here goes my own list:

1. I am thankful for grace. Grace is what makes it possible for me to keep having several chances with God.

2. I am thankful for my life companion, the man God has given me, what we have is special and i'm just glad I have him to walk life's road with.

3. I am thankful for great friends, those who will listen to you rant and not think you have a nut unscrewed in your head....those friends like sisters who are ever there to catch you when you seem to be falling. It's a blessing and I don't take it for granted.

4. I am thankful for my health. Every part of my body works, it is only by His grace.

5. I am thankful for that phone call...the one that got me searching my soul and got me saying some things over and over to myself. Thanks for that sis, it was a blessing and i know i'm blessed!

6. I am thankful that I finally got to take that step...it just might be a window to great things...

7. I'm thankful that hubby got to stay home with me instead of being away for two days. I hate the home alone days and when i got that text saying 'have you been praying about my journey?' I knew he was staying home...yay! lol

8. I'm thankful for Midnight crew and their inspiration to sing IGWE....i'm just so hooked on that song at the moment...yeah yeah, i know, i'm beginning to sound like a broken record. I'm still thankful for them anyways!

9. I'm thankful for blogville....it's just a blessed community.

That's my list, are you making yours?

Happy midweek!

Ungrateful like GNG + IGWE

I'm loving this song...i am so loving it...it's been on repeat in my house since yesterday...i'm playing it now and i don't know how many more times i'm going to play it today. It's not that new i know, infact i've heard it several times before but all of a sudden, i just lurrrrrve it. I love the beat and it just lifts my spirit!

No king like God now...abi? So i'm loving Midnight Crew's Igwe and i was playing the CD and dancing in ma living room yesterday when ma (former friend Good Naija Girl came online. I couldn't contain my excitement so i asked if she'd heard the song before and she said she'd look for it in YouTube. She found it right...and got hooked, she was loving it! So i asked if she'd thank me for helping her find some good music for her soul on a good Sunday afternoon...guess what, she refused to pay for this awesome service i did her, neither was she grateful. Instead, she told me she'd give me the honour of remaining my friend. What! Isn't that just the most conceited thing i ever heard? So i said i will report her to the gbogbo blogville o! What do you guys think? Should i remain friends with her or not? She said you guys will take her side, is that true? I'm about to make her a former friend, shouldn't i? GNG, you ain't got nothing on me!

And then i got my lovely sis Temite to listen to it, she loved it so much and i could hear her gratitude over the phone when i spoke to her. GNG, you need to learn some tips from my aburo. She sure knows what gratitude is! That's how she got hooked o and was playing the thing over and over too...and i thought...see what you done Writefreak! You've inspired another Igwe addict. Nurrin do you jare aburo mi. I love you like that.

It doesn't matter i had to tell them both what Igwe means although i'm not Ibo and i don't understand most of the words in the song...hehehe...See...GNG, another service i rendered, translation...one more reason to be grateful and to get paid! lol. So i said i would get Temite to side with me ( i know she knows people who know people who know people...that can...GNG, you berra watch ya back!) . I think she's got a mafia boyfie sef. GNG, are you shaking yet? Temite, over to you, time to fight for your big sis!

And btw GNG, i have tabled your matter to aloted. You know we're like 5 and 6 and she's got powerful people in blogville. You should be shaking already. Gosh, i'd be scared in your shoes!

So y'all enjoy these videos from Midnight Crew (after all the messing around). Take your pick, they have two vides for the same song. IGWE. I can almost hear that word in my sleep. lol





Have a nice week my good people!

Thank you dear father

I missed my thankful post yesterday, it doesnt mean i'm not grateful, it just means i was tied up...but God sees my heart and he knows that i love Him so much...He's afterall the giver of life, He's the one whogives me hope, makes me wake up each day and know i want to continue living....because with Him, life is just starting!

He's afterall the one who can turn around seemingly hopeless situations and infuse life into them...i've seen Him do this, so i choose to not believe otherwise. I'm going through a phase, sometimes it's tough and i feel like i can't go on, but then my eyes are open to the things that are working and i know for a certainty that I am indeed blessed! I shouldn't even think otherwise...

Ah, this was supposed to be a thankful post and that is what it shall be, not a random one! Gosh, i feel so random! Lolo

So i am thankful for the following reasons:

1. I am thankful for hope and faith. Two days ago, i felt like i was in a hopeless situation. I questioned God, i despaired, i grieved...but He infused hope into me again, His word is my anchor and I will not let go! He is the giver of hope! And someday I will smile over that situation (pls say Amen)

2. I am thankful for a husband who loves me deeply and thinks about me. The little things He does makes me thank God and i am not taking them for granted. He considers me and will still buy me ice cream and sharwama (without me asking) on a day that I'm feeling blue and have forgotten to eat...gosh, i love my husband and God i thank you for Him.

3. For the wonderful friends He has surrounded me with. It's sad to walk life's journey alone and i'm blessed i don't have to do that. They might be very few, infact a trickle, but they're lovely.

4. I 'm thankful for that ray of light that is shining through, it might be very faint now, but i see it there...and i know for a fact that it will get brighter.

5. I'm thankful for the script He just gave me the grace to complete. For the friends that i peppered with questions...and for the fact that I know it's going out in favour!

6. I'm thankful for provision. He continues to meet our needs...these are difficult times but He keeps giving us a song...and i can confidently say 'when men say there's a casting down, we say there's a lifting up'

7. I'm thankful that although i dont have a grand plan written out for my life, i consistently know what to do and where I'm going...

8. I'm thankful for life and love...for the laughter i share with my husband and the people close to me.

I'm thankful! What are you thankful for?

He makes all things beautiful in HIS time....Amen!

My name is Writefreak and...

This is probably the randomest post you read from me..brace yourself! Lol

I don't know why I fight wearing my glasses so much! Actually I can see clearly without them..but I get these huge headaches when I neglect them like a reminder to pick them up. Hubby bought me this posh Ferre Gamo frames but o ti o, yours truly will hide them in the bag. Well staring at my system all day hasn't helped so much so I have decided to be friends with my posh glasses...don't advice me to wear contacts! I think it's torture!

Or is it cos I've been looking like a nerd that I avoid wearing them glasses? With my braids packed up and the glasses, I think I'm a perfect fit for a nerd or is it a strict teacher? Not sure...wish I could post pictures...lol

I'm very clumsy! Yes! I hit things, I get burns and scratch myself so many times. I just can't help it. I try so hard. I'm not as bad but Susan in Desperate Housewives remind me of myself! I try but maybe I really don't care. *shrugs*

The past one week has seen me sleeping at some very odd hours- 5a.m, 6a.m. I write late into the night and do some chatting. The guilty parties know themselves! Keeping me awake all night but really it's more of working! I have now decided to be a normal human being so I shall not be staying up longer than 2a.m anymore so help me God!

There are honest Nigerians and I believe in this great country of ours. I left my second phone on the car yesterday mistakenly. Mr and I went to cut his hair and we were there for like ages...actually we were the last to leave the shopping centre. The gateman came to us as we drove out and wanted to know if we lost a phone. I was so sure, I said No. The guy wouldn't let up so Mr asked him for the fone and dialed it, voila, it was mine! It's a cheap phone but replacing would have been an agony! We gave him a tip and Mr said to him 'with people like you, there's hope for Nigeria'...yes there is! Thanks Titus for being a honest Nigerian.

I hate not getting what I want when I want it! It sucks when I don't but delay isn't denial. I'm learning that God knows what I need per time and I should just trust Him. I hear him saying daughter, just trust fully, one day at a time. I make all things beautiful I'm MY time. Teach me to trust daddy...my life is in your hands.

I'm thinking of moving to MTN blackberry. Zain has been ripping me off! Why pay more when I can pay a flat rate? Ehn?

I love sleeping in. Why can't everyday be like Sunday? Dear God forgive me, I didn't go to church yesterday. But I woke up after noon and I felt blessed. The whole house was tidy..Mr had done all the chores. Dear God, I want more Sundays!

I shop for food once a month but I absolutely don't like it. I need a paradigm shift. I wonder what can make me like it now..it's that time of the month when my fridge is getting empty and I'm thinking oh God not again! Lol

Is it wrong for me not to have all them grand 5 to 10 year plans? I do have things written down and I know where I'm going. I just like to live one day at a time resting it all in my Father's hands!

I have less owambes to attend and I'm not feeling guilty about it. Now when I'm invited, I have the luxury of sayin...'Eh ya and I'm not in lagos o'...that is such a tenable excuse! And I'm loving it!

I miss my Mom! Am I too old for that? I wasn't home throughout last year, mostly cos she and my dad visited us a few times but I still miss her. I think I might spend some time with them over Easter!

I've been wishing I could be a child again! Honestly this growing up business isn't just for me. What happened to the days of not thinking about anything and having all my needs met by someone...having my bath in the rain though I knew it would make me sick. That's it! I am declaring that I Writefreak refuse to become an adult, I am still a child...maybe my dream will come true if I say it long enough...but wait o, there is a time for everything. God! You just know how to put me right!

My brother got posted to the outskirts of a city in Imo. He's going to be a secondary school teacher. There's no light, as in NEPA hasn't been giving them at all (not like we're better off here) and his salary from the school is 2k...I'm rotfl as I say it...isn't that just a joke. Isn't it time the govt did something about corpers' allowance? 7k5 or 9k..absolutely ridiculous!

Abuja drivers are driving me nuts! They just plain can't drive or is it that the roads are too wide and too good to be true?

I love my two year old nephew who wants to talk to me on the phone all the time! He doesn't know how to say l, he says n..so he says to me all the time - 'I nove you aunty...he says the l in my name with an n'. He's adorable! And everytime I speak to him now, no matter the time of the day, he says 'I haven't eaten all day aunty'. I hear his mum screaming 'it's a lie'. Children are such a delight!

God gave me a new sister and she rocks! We happened on each other and she's just so cute! I've learnt a lot from her and I dare to call her 'my blessing'. Temite my lovely sister with a pink heart who can't spell... I love ya! You're my blessing and I won't stop believing in you.

I forgot to add that I did this whole entry on my phone! Am I an addict or what? That's a whole entry on its own!

The first time..

The first time for a lot of people is always the best, for some it's memorable, for some it's very embarassing....

X was a sophomore student in the University and had just made a decision to change her place of worship and found somewhere more comfortable on the campus, a fellowship that made her feel at home.

Part of the requirements for new members was to attend a basic class called Foundation school. Students were divided into small groups with volunteer teachers who were also all students who had been in the fellowship for a while.

Her friend Y, was a teacher at the Foundation shcool and she wanted so badly to be in her friend's group. The list came out and she was disappointed to find out she had been put in the class of someone that she didn't even know. She went to ask her Y why she wasn't in her class, why gave an unintelligible answer. X expressed her disappointment for being put in A's class.
She turned her nose up, disappointment and cynicism written all over her face and she turned to Y and asked 'please tell me who is that A sef?'. Y smiled and X was irritated. X persisted in her quest to know. Please tell me, i hope he's a nice person and not someone that'll put me off this Foundation school o.

The answer came soon enough, 'he's right there behind you'.
X felt like the ground should open up and swallow her. Embarassment written all over her face, she turned and said 'A, nice to meet you. I didn't mean what i said the way it sounded'. A flashed a smile and said 'it's ok don't worry, see you in class'. He sauntered off leaving X all purple faced.
Interestingly, their relationship blossomed after that, they became best of friends and six and half years later, they got married.

Yeah, that's how Writefreak met her hubby the first time...lol, you wanna share how you met your husband, wife, fiancee/fiance or boyfriend? Would love to hear...

Hope you all had a good weekend. Wish you a pleasant week ahead!

Baba, you're too much!

Our God is worthy to be praised!

A scripture says 'though he slays me, i will praise Him'. What manner of faith! I wonder if i can have such faith, He will not slay me, i know but even if i go through the storm, i know He's there with me. He's an awesome God and i hope somedayi will be able to have as much faith as to be able to say 'though he slays me....'

I thought of Job and all He had to go through and His faith was still strong inspite of all the trials and tribulations. And i asked the Lord to increase my faith. He will not allow us to be tested more than we can bear but when i am going through that which He knows i can bear, may i not give in to fear and doubt, may i be able to stand strong in my faith knowing He will not allow me to go through what i cannot bear.

God is awesome and i praise Him for these reasons:

1. For my wonderful husband, he just sent me a text message that made me smile and think oh God, you gave me the best man! I'm thankful for a man who is not afraid to acknowledge his shortcomings and is willing to walk hand in hand. And oh, should i say i'm thankful that i have him to walk this journey of life with?

2. I'm thankful for my friends. A good number of them are pregnant, i pray for them everyday and God is keeping them and working in their lives.

3. I thank God for friends who help me when i need it, whether virtual or real life. Thanks FG and No Limit for your contributions to the work i'm doing now

4. I'm thankful to God for constructive criticism because through it, i get better

5. I'm thankful to God for a second, third, fourth, fifth and uncountable chances He continues to give me. Even when i choose to be faithless, i am able to go back to Him and He restores my soul.

6. I'm thankful to God for helping me be a blessing to people around me. He gives me a word in season and i am able to encourage!

7. I'm thankful to God for provision. He's an awesome God. I never lack and good thing

8. I'm thankful to God for this work in progress (me) that He keeps guiding and leading by the hand

9. I'm thankful for Standtall and what she's doing. Yours truly is this week's celebrity, Standtall has the privilege of interviewing me (hehehe, how conceited), you ran read it here.

10. I thank God for my Ayefele cd which is now my dance exercise cd..lol

11. Lastly, i thank God for you all!

Baba you're too much! May you continue to bless all my friends in blogville and their families!

All in a Week...

What do i blog about today?
Should i write another Memoir from my childhood?
Should i make it random?
Should it be about things that happened recently? Ok let's try...i'll keep typing, you'll get a post, whichever thoughts my hyper active mind decide are dominant at the moment...then we will give it a title...deal! You don't have an option not to deal. lol

BobTV film festival took place here in Abuja this last week and i attended at the Sheraton hotel. I was particularly interested in a class on Story writing. I got there first day and i didn't know it was such an organised event. There were ushers in red checking out tags and asking people to come register. My friend; a screen writer who omitted details had omitted the fact that i would have to register with five grand. I didn't have that much cash, i try not to carry cash on me cos i just end up spending what i don't need. Thankfully i had my ATM card, i got to the machines and in the whole of Sheraton, not one machince carried cash. That pissed me off.

My friend was blogging the event so i waited for him outside, i got a number of hellos from random guys who were also attending the festival and i tried to wear my nice cap. Several minutes later i was still waiting and one of the guys who had said hello earlier walked up to me.

Random guy: Hi, you're still outside?

*alarm bells go off in my head* i'm thinking obviously...would you see me outside if i wasn't outside? I humour him and instead i say

Me: 'yes'

Random guy: You must be a student. What school are you from?

For crying out loud, i tried my best to look a bit responsible. Not my usual top and jeans, i was wearing a nice indian top with jeans. How exactly do i look like a student? Once again i humour him

Me: No, i'm a writer

Random guy: What newspaper do you write for?

Oh my God! This guy is so mumu! Does every writer write for a newspaper? Dude still lives in the dark ages

Me: No i am a freelance writer. I write for screen, i write fiction....(i'm tired, i don't owe him an explanation)

Random guy: *takes a look at me from head to toe* But you're also a student?

Now i'm really annoyed, did i not just tell this dude that i'm not a student? I suppose to him i looked to young or small to be anything else? I wonder if he was trying to hit on me or not but for crying out loud, i wear two rings on my wedding finger...maybe most guys think they're a joke! Who knows?

Me: Do you know how many years ago i graduated?

I walk off and hear him say after me, has it really been that long then? Dude, yes it's been a while, almost 7 and it would have been more, no thanks to the strikes when i was in Uni.

Cabbage diet
I decided to do the cabbage diet for a week as African weight loss diva recommended. It's supposed to help lose 4kg in a week. I desire to weigh less than 65kg, i now weigh between 67 and 68kg and i thought, why not take a short cut? Cabbage gave me so much gas, i gave up the diet after three days and concluded...a lifestyle change is better than a quick fix programme. Lesson learnt the hard way, i still have some of the gas and i'm hardly able to eat. Hubby laughed at me so hard and he said...'i know we don't say i told you so, but if there was a worst line right now, i should use it...' I eyed him, i should have thrown a pillow at him..lol

I have a confession to make, i haven't gone jogging in a month! A whole month...i'm now thinking of exercising in a structured manner, like maybe register in a gym here, used to go to one in Lagos. Or maybe swim on particular days during the week and have a set number of laps...still thinking about it...your thoughts are welcome

I'm writing a screenplay, still putting the story together and now my characters are creeping into my sleep, help!

I took an afternoon nap, and dreamt that Simeone did a post, wanting to know about something personal, i'm not telling exactly what but i'm wondering ok, why is Simeone creeping into my dream? Whatever thoughts you're entertaining about me dude, time to spill..lol..Blogville, you sometimes gives me the creeps!

Ok, peace out! off to watch rubbish tv with Mr and enjoy some laughter together.

Thankful Wednesday + Comparison Trap

'For we dare not class ourselves or compare ourselves with those who commend themselves. But they, measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise'.
2 Cor 10: 11-12

Ok so what is Writefreak saying today? God is teaching me some lessons and i'd like to leave a bit of them with you my family on blogville. Comparing yourself with anyone, anyone at all, is a sign of foolishness! Have you ever heard yourself say things like these:

1. Why me?
2. All my mates are getting married, why not me?
3. All my friends have kids but me
4. Why is my life so different?

There are so many ways we compare ourselves with others and instead of focusing on what is important, we're caught in trying to be like Mr A or Mrs B. How dare you? When God has made only one YOU; each of us with unique gifts and abilities, some have disovered theirs, others are working out theirs while some are being too lazy to work it out. Whatever point we are in our lives, the focus should be on what God wants for us per time and not what the other person is about. And if we're being lazy, then we need to step up our game!

It's not easy not to compare because you always have people around you who will help you do it anyway. Even when you don't want to, folks compare you to others and poison your minds.

Real life scenario. A phone call comes in from a friend you haven't heard from in a long time. It goes, how're you doing? It's been a long time, the last time i heard from you was over a year ago at your wedding. You're happy to hear from the long time friend and you tell her, oh yes, it's been way too long! Then she asks you if everything is alright. In your innocence, you go oh sure all is perfect! Then she teasingly asks if you have a baby on the way and you say hmmm,not yet. Then she goes, oh i hope all is well....my friend who got married with you on the same day just had a baby. My response; don't you ever compare me with anyone, God has a plan for each of our lives and whatever His plan is for my life i'm sure is not the same with that of your friend's. So my dear, when are you getting married? You guessed right, the call ended. Even if you don't want to compare, people help you to.

Asking Why me is a major pointer to the fact that you're comparing yourself to others. The experiences we go through in life are meant to shape us into who we eventually become and since you didn't make yourself, you need to let Him work out His will in your life...When gold has been tried, it becomes pure.

I'm learning that no one has it perfect and the person you're comparing yourself to has also got an area where their shoes pinch. You're not wearing their shoes so you don't know where it hurts and a lot of people wear theirs gracefully!

There's a unique YOU that no one else can be like. It's questioning God's word and authority when you ask Him why can't i be like so so person....being in the comparison trap is the worst place one can get stuck in. I'm not exonerating myself cos i've been guilty so many times, asking God questions and mentioning names sometimes. It's ok to ask God questions but don't get stuck there...move on!

What does His word say regarding me? What does His word say regarding any situation i'm in? Focus on that and not what is not working in your life but working in your friend or colleague's life. When you're going through something, it's for something glorious to come in the end...('For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory') " Cor 4:17.

Also you need to block out every factor, including humans that want to make you stay in the dumps and judge the situation of your life by that of others. Stay focused on God and what you know He has in store for you. When you fall into the comparison trap, ask Him to forgive you and help you see the greater good He has for your life. It doesn't seem like it sometimes but trust me, He's got a greater good He's cooking up most times when everything looks turpsy turvy!

On the whole, know that God never wants to punish you, the devil will bring afflictions your way that is certain but God always has a way out, an escape route...you might not see it immediately because God doesn't work like a microwave, it might take time but your beauty will shine forth. Isaac got married to Rebekkah at 40 years, he asked God for children, Esau and Jacob came when he was 60 years. Yeah that seems like a very long time, i must commend his faith cos i think in his shows, i'd be tempted to throw in the towel and sit somewhere moping and asking God WHY ME? It might take time, your life might not look as glamorous as that of folks around you now but with your trust in Him and letting Him work in you daily, you will get there.

Be wise, do not compare yourself to others!

So it's a Wednesday and i'm definitely thankful to God for His numerous blessings. These are some of my own reasons:
1. I am thankful to God for the lessons He continuously teaches me. Right now, i am thankful that my life is not defined by anybody's opinion but by His word
2. I am thankful for the public holiday on Monday, hubby and i got to spend time together at home and it was bliss
3. I am thankful that once again, i am strong and my mind is being renewed, i'm out of the dumps, halleluyah!
4. I am thankful that God gave me the wisdom to download the display driver for my laptop using Mozilla cos IE kept terminating. Now y computer looks good! Yay!
5. I am thankful to God for family and what it means. My parents seem to bug me with their calls all the time and though i lament at how many questions they ask, i am very thankful that they care.
6. I am thankful that God helped me out with the manic cab driver i used yesterday night and He gave me patience to handle the situation. I tell you that wasn't me, typical WF would freak out! (to hear the story, you have to pay me!)
7. I am thankful that i know the one who holds tomorrow so the future is certain.
8. I am once again thankful for provision for Mr and I. We never lack and all our needs are met. Infact i don't think i have real 'needs', just wants..and God still meets them. Halleluyah
9. I am thankful for God's protection over our lives. We go out and come in with no incidents. Praise the Lord!

There must be something you're thankful for, wanna shar e?

Ps: check out the soulsistas blog if you haven't done so.

The Teacher Got a Lesson

How many of you had Ghanaian ( i don't even think i know how to spell that...chei) lesson teachers as kids? I did, we had far too many and i thought my parents were just being wicked. While other kids played outside, we were on the balcony with our teachers learning and relearning and yearning to go play outside with out mates. Once the lesson was over, we made up for it by over playing. Mind you, it's not like my parents forbade us to play, they just made sure we studied first.

My parents were really into education and now i'm really grateful for that, when i was a kid, it definitely felt like punishment. My mum is a teacher and my dad used to work in the Ministry of Education, dad is one of the few civil servants who did the jobs to the letter. Anyway, so you can imagine the burden of being saddled with two educationists as parents. Arrrggghhh...lol. I remember once i was very ill and it was close to exam periods, i was in JS1 i think, my mum sat beside me going through my school notebooks with me and reading them to me and making sure i understood what she read. Please, i was ill, could i not be exempted from reading...lol

When i was about 6 or 7 years i think, we had this teacher who was really really mean. Or was he? I don't remember but we didn't like him. The guy just wasn't plain nice and to our kid minds, he just plain hated us. So we decided he deserved to be punished. There was me, my sister, my youngest sister who was too young to be part of the classes, we seriously envied her and then there were our two friends, they're sisters and we were neighbours; L and B. So we kids got together and plotted a coup for our lesson teacher. We didn't consider the consequence i think. We were too young to consider the consequences of our actions.

It was a typical evening ,we were being taught but we weren't concentrating. We were waiting for it to happen. We kept staring at each other and waiting for our moments of glory, would it ever come? Then just as we were going to give up, it happened. Our wicked teacher fell inside the chair he was sitting on and it was a very bad fall. He screamed! We laughed! Silly children, he turned his wrath on us, he didn't beat us but he resigned his position. My mum wasn't sure why he had to resign because he fell. If only she knew.

The day before, we had gotten together, us kids, wondering how we could deal with our teacher and then it came to us. I can't remember who has the credit for such a brilliant idea but between us kids, we decided on the punishment. We initially thought of putting pins in his seat but we knew that would be too easy. He'd know they were planted. Then we remembered our almost abandoned dining chair which always fell in. Remember what dining chairs used to look like in the 80s? Well the cushion of this particular chair had been attached from the wood that held it but it could be placed properly and you'd hardly know. For us kids, it was easy to not fall into it but and adult weight would definitely not hold for too long. We decided to give him this chair and humiliate him.

He comfortably sat in the chair wagging his finger at us if he asked a question and we didn't know the answer. Then our moment of glory came, he fell! We had punished him. We laughed, we couldn't contain our joy and i'm sure he could tell from our faces that we planned it. I'm sure guilt and pure joy were written all over our little faces.

The teacher resigned and we were free to do as we pleased, only for a short while though. I'm not saying we were right but i guess this was part of what being a child was about.Our joy was short lived though, my mum found us a new Ghanaian lesson teacher!

Thankful Again

Thank you all for your comments on my last post. I'm feeling so much love from blogville, it's amazing! It's interesting that although I don't know 99 percent of those on blogville physically, I feel like we share a connection. it's as if I know you all, although I don't if that makes sense. I'm glad to be part of the movement called blogville!
Once again I'm giving God the glory cos He alone deserves it. These are some of the reasons:
1. I'm thankful that hubby and I are alive and we have seen the 3rd month of the year(is it me or is time running by)!Only the living can praise God!
2. I'm thankful that once again God has opened my eyes to see that behind every cloud is a silver lining. It might not look like it all the time but there definitely is one! Thank you Lord for showing me that no situation is ever as bad as it seems...
3. I'm thankful for aloted's dad. God saved Him from armed robbers and I trust God for His perfect healing
4. I am thankful for the material blessing I received from a friend. It's proof to me once again that God is interested in the minutest detail of my life and will position people to help me.
5. I am thankful for a husband who constantly makes sure that I don't lack. Thank you father for provision. May our cruise of oil never fail (and yours too as you read this post)
6.I am thankful that my laptop has been fixed and is now in good working condition. Now u don't have to keep trying to get the charger to make a connection with the port
7. I am thankful that Arewa is back on blogville after 8 months absence and she is even married now!
8. And lastly I am thankful for all my friends on blogville who make it a worthwhile place. I love you all!
There's a lot more I could write...but there's so much typing one can do on a phone. I just had to put this up. God bless you all and I pray you will always see that no situation is ever as bad as it seems!

Ps: I forgot to ask....what are you thankful for?

On Myself and other things- Totally Random!

I've wanted to write a post for a few days, wanted to put pen to paper but the zeal was just not there...or maybe the zeal was there but i didn't have the strength, whatever! I see posts flashing from my favourite blogs and i just ignore them, strange but i just didn't feel like it. Was a bit tired physically and then i was kinda feeling antisocial.

I had a guest (who manages to turn up at my house everyday) and i honestly almost walked her out. I wanted to be alone and i guess she just didn't get the message...hmmph...i had so many reasons to be thankful but i couldn't even bring myself to do my thankful post. I'm not in a bad mood, and i'm not unhappy, i'm just a bit unmotivated! And i keep getting questions from people 'are you alright'?
Yes i'm very very alright, just having one of those moments when you need to recharge and refresh (like the coke promo that was cancelled, the maximum you could win was 50 bucks when you've even bought the cold for 60 bucks, awon ole!*)lol...i'm an eagle, i need time to renew myself, guess that's where i've been the past few days.

What's it with Naija service providers??? They just make me wanna pull out my hair! In the last few days, i've had issues with everything i own that has some form of technology; internet on my computer, my blackberry, even DSTV joined them today. What do the customer service guys in Multichoice do for crying out loud! No offences meant but i was on the phone with them for at least 4 minutes about 5 times today and they couldn't resolve my issue. Crap! They all seemed to be reeling out info from the same textbook...pshew. Bring out your smartcard, switch off your decoder and reinstall dish then insert your smsrt card again, it will work'. Duh, did i not just tell you i've done that like 10 times already?? Arrgghhh...they make me wanna pull out my hair! But i won't o, i'm even braiding it at the moment. Ok lemme spare you the lamentation.

What do you do when someone keeps showing up at your house almost every blessed day unannounced? They make themselves welcome and treat themselves to goodies from the fridge. We're not the best of friends but we're not enemies either. I feel as if i gave this person too much access but i just can't stick it anymore. I'm sure i'm a nice person but i'm starting to feeI 'unnice'. I love my ME time and i honestly don't stay home to play, I WORK FROM HOME!!! I've asked a few friends and their opinion have helped me. I actually gave the security instructions yesterday that i didn't want a guest, i don't know if the person in question showed up or not and i really don't care. Some people don't just get hints. There are some people i like to see everyday but unfortunately this person doesn't fall within that category. How would you handle the situation? I think somewhere in the book of Proverbs, the bible says something like 'withdraw your feet from your neighbour's house lest he hates you'. I'd like to hear your views.

On a good note my brother just got his NYSC posting to Imo state. Did anyone serve there? Any helpful tips you can give me for him? I'd appreciate it.

Will be back soon with a post from memoirs of my childhood! Remember my Iyabo post?

Have a nice weekend all!
*the thieves

Thankful Wednesday on Thursday

My people, it's Thursday, but yours truly forgot to put up a thankful post yesterday cos i was neck deep in work...and then i had guests who i had to attend to..what else? I can come up with a million and one excuses..lol.
I already thought i'd just leave it till next week until Caelestis reminded me, here i am doing my thankful post because God is indeed worthy of all the praise and glory! Thanks babe
So i am thankful for the following reasons

1. I am thankful for the wonderful man God has blessed me with and for my marriage. Valentine's day was wonderful. I had planned hubby's surprise, i wasn't focusing on what i could get. Dude had sent a message the previous day saying not to bother with a gift but he didn't know i had things planned. I played along. Should i just say eh was surprised? I got flowers and some other stuff ...*winks
2. I am thankful because Mr and i are in one accord. Without previous discussion, i bought him 9 cards and he bought me 9 roses, we both had the same thing in mind, we've been together 9 years in total!
3. I thank God for new godly friends. I'm in a new city, i know very few people but God is gradually bringing people that love Him my way; the kind of people i can be proud to associate with
4. I am thankful for open doors, He sets before me an open door and no man can shut it. Halleluyah!
5. I am thankful for Vera's valentine's day. I prayed she would get a surprise and she did..hehehe
6. I am thankful for my dad's life. Yesterday, he turned a year older. God continues to keep him and the rest of my family
7. I am thankful for friends who can tell me the truth without fear.
8. I am thankful for provision. God continues to meet our needs
9. I am thankful that my neighbour's wife had a safe delivery and he goes to see his wife and first born son on Sunday. God is good!

I am thankful for a lot of things, but if i decide to fill this page, i won't be able to accommodate your list, lol..so what are you thankful for?

Ps: Blogville help me o, i have a stalker and because of him i have stopped jogging! He met me one day in the morning while i was going and he said he was a health instructor and i was doing the wrong thing, depleting minerals in my body without replacing them. Jogging isn't good for me bla bla...i told him well thank you, can i continue? He said he trains pple, dance classes, mild yoga etc. Where? On a schoolfield, i said ok, even asked the address to get him off my back. I didn't go jogging for a few days cos i wasn't feeling too good...only yesterday i wanted to go out jogging and the security guy came with a flier in his hands from this guy. He said the guy dropped it.
Please help me, blogville, how did this guy find my house? I'm scared to go out now o!
Remember to swing by www.soulsistasheart.blogspot.com

(I've had to remove the hyperlinks because i think they're making it difficult to open my blog, i wonder why!)

Honest Scrap Award!

Happy Valentine's day all (in arrears). Hope you had fun, mine was splendid..my hubby made it worthwhile. Roses, cards..etc...i leave you to imagine the rest. lol

So i got tagged by YNC on the honest scrap award, so i am telling you ten things about myself that i hope i haven't shared before. If you've read it here before, just act surprised still..lol

The Rules
1) Choose a minimum of 7 blogs that you find brilliant in content or design
2) Show the 7 winners names and links on your blog, and leave a comment informing them that they were prized with "Honest Scrap." Well, there's no prize, but they can keep the nifty icon :)
3) List at least 10 honest things about yourself

So here goes:

1. I once fooled myself that i could be left handed cos i thought most left handed people were brilliant

2. I'd rather write how i feel than talk about it. Maybe i'm shy?

3. I've worn glasses since i was in SS2 but i tend to deceive myself that i have great eyesight until i get them nasty headaches

4. I got married two years and two months ago to my first real boyfriend who i met in Uni(as a virgin) and we're still madly in love

5. At a time in my life, i thought only prostitutes polished their nails and had more than one ear piercing

6. I graduated as the best student in my class in University

7. I have always left my jobs since i graduated except for one although at the point of leaving i never was sure of what i would do (think i'm crazy?)

8. I write very fast and hate to re-read anything i write. Most of my posts are first drafts

9. I hate onions, infact i hardly eat them and i pick them aside when i see them in food

10. I didn't have a train when i got married, only a maid of honour because i don't like the stress....

I think i'll add another one..lol though it's meant to be 10

11. I love God with all of my heart!

I think i'm very weird or very honest cos i can come up with a lot more things about myself but i'm guessing that's the same for a lot of people..


Enjoy the rest of your week people!

Ps: I don't think i'm tagging anyone, ok i tag y'all who haven't done this...!

Thankful Wednesday from grumpy WF..lol

I don't feel like being thankful today, i really don't feel like, it's one of those days when i look around me and although there's much to be thankful for, there's also a number of things that could be better...but Writefreak is walking by faith and not by sight, so i am choosing to be thankful for the things that are working in my life...cos trust me, there are a lot!

I am thankful for a safe trip to and fro for hubby and i

I am thankful for friends who i can rant at when i feel like. Thanks for the listening ear guys

I am thankful for though it seems some things are not working, i have an assurance in the word of God and a more sure word of prophecy! I am thankful for all the scriptures that bring peace in my heart

I am thankful that i got healed from the terrible cold that got me down

I am thankful for potential opportunities

I am thankful for the wonderful relationship i have with my husband and for the things God is working out in our lives.

Everything might not be perfect right now but there's always a reason to be thankful, what are you thankful for?

Ps: for those of you who read our other blog ,it will be updated in the next couple of days

Thankful Wednesday

I didnt do my thankful wednesday last week, not because i didn't want to but i was really busy. I have a lot of things to be thankful for but the chief of them are these:

1. I am thankful for the gift of life, being able to sleep and wake up is a miracle and i don't take it for granted.

2. I am thankful for the most amazing news i received from my very good friend...i prayed and God answered. Father i am indeed grateful

3. For bringing our household stuff to Abuja safely from Lagos.

4. For the 1kg i lost in the past one week....still about 3 more kgs, Lord i know you can do it.

5. For my husband who is totally open and honest with me. Thank you Lord for giving me a good man

6. For the friends i made on blogville recently. You guys rock!

7. For the miracle He is about to perform in my life. I know it! i just know it!

8. I am thankful for the hope God has given me in His word, He continues to open my eyes.

9. For the healing He gave me from headache once i stood on His word

10. For the may blessings He continues to shower on me..some i might not remember but i am indeed very grateful!

'Great is your faithfulness o Lord my father'

What are you thankful for?

Randy Landlord (the conclusion)

So sorry i am only just putting the conclusion of Randy Landlord up.I had some family matters to attend to but i'm back now If you didn't read the first part, you can find it below or here . So y'all enjoy the rest of the story and let me know what you think still...

The next week I got a simple email from him telling me he was working onsomething and he would get in touch as soon as he finished. I was mad, this was no way for a man to treat his wife. Had he even forgotten about our son?

My landlord and his wife paid us a visit someday and the woman in her caring way wanted to know what was going on. I surprised myself when I burst into tears, I had been bottling up my emotion. The woman just came to me, wrapped me in a hug and promised me that she was sure whatever the situation was, everything would be ok. The husband had an ‘I knew it’ look on his face and I hated myself for breaking down in their presence. When I calmed down, my landlord’s wife turned to him and said: ‘’honey, why don’t you take our young friend with you to the club today to get her mind off things? I really don’t want to go, you can cheer her up and you will have company. I’ll take Dammy (my son) for the evening’’

I wondered if this woman could not tell that her husband was hitting on me. Why had fate planned it this way. I tried to get out of it but she would hear none of my protests. I needed to go out and be cheerful. I was stuck with the old goat.

I was tense all the way to the club and barely said a word throughout the drive. After having a few drinks though, I relaxed and an evening with ‘the old goat’ as I was fond of calling him turned out not too bad after all, he had a great sense of humour and made me laugh a lot forgetting my problems. I must have been tipsy a bit. I was surprised he didn’t ask me for anything that night, he only asked if I wanted to do it again with a glint in his eyes. I found myself saying yes and I knew the next time, there might be no turning back. He put an envelope in my hands as he said goodnight, when I opened it, there was a sum of N20,000. My heart leapt for joy. I needed cash at the time.

We had a nice evening and he introduced me to some of his friends at the club as his friend and also his tenant, one of them winked knowingly at me and I felt a pang of guilt. I was probably not the first lady my landlord had brought to this place. We enjoyed the evening and I braced myself for what I knew would happen when we left the club

My landlord instructed his driver to drive to a popular hotel far from where we lived. My heart was pounding in my chest as I knew what I was about to embark on was unfaithfulness to my husband and our marriage vows but I rationalised that a woman had needs and my husband had not been there in a long time to fulfil those needs or do his duties. I rationalised that my move was justified. My body craved intimacy and my purse needed cash. My landlord was providing both.

I went into the bathroom to have a shower and left my landlord on the bed, it kept occurring to me that I was doing the wrong thing and I would live to regret it. In all our married years, this had not happened once, not even when we were dating. Would I be able to live with the consequences. I begged my heart to let me rest, afterall I had committed the adultery in my heart already but it would not be quiet. I was wondering if I could go through with the deceit and ever look my husband in the face again or even the landlord. What could be the end of this affair but shame?

I walked out of the bathroom and heard my phone beep with a text message. It was from my husband and it simply said: ‘baby I love you, I am sorry for the agony I have put you through. Please forgive me. I’ll be home tomorrow morning and we can work things out. I am very sorry’

I looked at my landlord, shook my head and told him I couldn’t go through with it, grabbed my clothes, hurriedly wore them and ran out of the hotel room, leaving the man watching after me with mouth agape.

PS:

Hope you guys liked the conclusion, if not, you can write your own ending in your comment...I know..lol

Have a nice week!
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